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Not the “Man” I Married
“There is nothing permanent except change.” -Heraclitus “Our dilemma is that we hate change and love it at the same time; what we really want is for things to remain the same but get better.” -Sydney J. Harris It is that second quote that feels very real right now. It is how I’ve lived most…
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Pride and Prejudice
I had a different topic intended for today, but a busy Saturday has forced that to be pushed back. I did want to post something, however, so I decided to talk about said Saturday. As I’ve mentioned before – I live in the South in the United States. The South has already had an issue…
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“Permissible” Bisexuality
It should go without saying, but bisexuality isn’t a recent phenomenon or a modern trend (even though there are people who want to suggest that it is), even if the word itself is more recent than many people might realize. The word “bisexual” was first used in 1859 (a mere 164 years ago) when anatomist…
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The Phallus Fallacy
Let’s talk about dicks. Not in a sexy, fun way – but in relation to how much power Western Society gives these bits of flesh, and why that is a major problem. I’m going to break this down into sections based on certain facts related to the penis. You may choose to disagree with these…
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How I Got Here (Part IV – Conclusions and Consequences)
At the beginning of this series I mentioned that one of the few things I’m embarrassed about is how long it took me to figure out these fundamental aspects of my identity – and that is true. But beyond being embarrassed, I’m disappointed and mournful of what I consider to be a lot of lost…
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How I Got Here (Part III – End)
So we’ve seen how my childhood shaped me, and how I took that upbringing and environment and used what limited information I had to try and rationalize the way I felt inside. Obviously I got it wrong, so let’s look at how I sorted things out (or at least started to). Here I was –…
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How I Got Here (Part II – Middle)
When we last left each other, I was painting (or at least trying to paint) the picture of my childhood environment as a means of explaining why it took me until almost 40 to figure out some pretty serious things about myself that most people start exploring in their teens or 20s at the latest.…
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How I Got Here (Part I – Beginning)
There are a few things that embarrass me about my existence. My queer identity isn’t one of them. Of the totality of what makes me – me…my queer identity is the thing that I find the most bliss in. Some might even say that I take “pride” in it (see what I did there?). I…
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Being Double Bi
It is always difficult to know where to start with something like this. I’ve blogged in the past. I’ve spent the last several decades writing in one form or another (essays, short stories, journals, etc). But to write something you actually want to write – let alone something you think anyone would actually want to…